The Real Me- Natural Acceptance and Peace

President Obama sings Al Green: Let's stay together in 2012 ;-)

2012-01-20T14:17:00.001-05:00

This man is my President...SWOON

Mom, I Love you. RIP 1-9-2004

2012-01-09T11:29:00.000-05:00

8 years ago today I did the hardest thing I have ever had to do in my entire life. I had to leave my mommy in the hospital knowing I would never ever touch or see her again. Very rarely do I think about that day. A moment I knew without a shadow of a doubt that I would break in a way that I would never fully recover from. I can still feel the terror when I realized that the nurses weren't going to take her body away but I was going to have to actually stand up and walk out of the room..with her still in it. I wish no living being to ever have to experience that. Yet while I cant imagine anything being harder I have also yet to experience anything more beautiful than the almost tangible serenity and peace of my mom passing away. Ever the diva, she would come to if only to make sure her hair was brushed and her skin was properly lotioned. She left this earth the same way she came in....a beautiful ray of sunshine.

I left my mother's side only one night the 9 days she was hospitalized. After the first few days of trying to grasp what was happening there was nothing to say but I love you. I said it every time she looked at me...over and over until she would blink or squeeze my hand. Every time I thought she might be able to hear me, I would whisper it in her ear. I even woke her up a few times just tell her. Not that I didn't think she knew because I know she did but it was all I had left. Those three little words were all I had and I wanted to imprint them on her spirit...I needed her to take them with her. Those three little words were the only thing that got me out that room. I chanted them in my mind with each step away. They were my very last words to her and her very last words to me. They are the only words I would kill to say to her just one more time. She's been gone 8 years and I still cant say it enough.
I love you momma.

Three Books Every Natural Hair Woman Must Have

2011-12-23T11:32:00.000-05:00

The Kinky Khronicles: TKK Natural Hair Spotlight-Ronyelle Baker

2011-12-04T12:41:00.000-05:00

It's ME

The Kinky Khronicles: TKK Natural Hair Spotlight-Ronyelle Baker: What is your name and where are you from? Ronyelle – Dayton, Ohio How long have you been natural? 3 years and 4 months Why did you ...

old school new do

2011-11-30T13:50:00.000-05:00

I kinda flat twisted/rolled the front and pulled the rest back into a clip for a low puff

Travel Tips for Naturals

2011-11-30T10:25:00.000-05:00

http://networkedblogs.com/qOlnL?a=share&ref=nf
7. Keep some items easily accessible
Once you reach your destination, you may want to do a few adjustments to your hair. Make sure that the items you’ll need for that are not buried deep in your luggage.
NOW THIS ONE IS REALLY IMPORTANT…
8. If your hair products weigh more than your clothing, unpack and try again.

Loc contest- I may need to try this

2011-11-30T10:21:00.000-05:00

The Knotty Truth
We are looking for three committed loose natural head that want to take the journey to lockdom in 2012. The winner will get a free copy of The Knotty Truth Lock Manual. Submissions will be accepted online from December 1, 2011- December 31st 2011. Submit an expression of what motivates you to lock. It can be a drawing, poem, song(mp3 file), composition. Please submit to cheleski@theknottytruth.net. Winners will be announced on January 15, 2012 in honor of MLK Celebration Day.

8 Herbs & Oils that Promote Hair Growth

2011-11-30T10:18:00.000-05:00

http://bglhonline.com/2011/11/8-herbs-oils-that-promote-hair-growth/2/
I wanna try this one;

Wheat Germ/Aloe Vera/Coconut Milk

Mix 1/4 cup of wheat germ, 1/4 cup of aloe vera and 1/4 cup of coconut milk and use this product as a natural shampoo. Aloe vera can be purchased at drugstores and herb shops and can also be applied directly to the scalp as it will open pores on the scalp that may have previously been blocked and will allow the hair follicles to grow. The American Indians also used and continue to use several kinds of oils to promote hair growth such as emu oil, rosemary oil, and mustard oil.

Twilight hair

2011-11-20T13:26:00.000-05:00

Attempted a new style

Flexi Rod Set on Natural Hair (Attempt #2)

2011-11-15T18:27:00.000-05:00

MUST TRY
FLEXI ROD

Casual & Classic "Natural Hair" Style

2011-11-15T18:00:00.000-05:00

MUST TRY THIS

Curly And Lovely: "I Didn't Land On Natural Hair..."

2011-11-15T17:31:00.000-05:00

Curly And Lovely: "I Didn't Land On Natural Hair...": ...."Natural Hair landed On Me" *Malcom X voice LOL!!!* L....O....to the most absolute highest L!!!! I DIE every time I see this sce...

"Kudos to those that were able to jump in head and hair first but ladies, please be respectful of each other's journeys and be supportive. You never know what kind of obstacles another natural has endured just to get to the point that she is at in her journey. Remember, "Each one teach one", be positive and most importantly, be INSPIRING!""
AMEN

Great day three twist out

2011-11-04T19:26:00.000-04:00

Just in time for the October Diva dinner!

2011-11-04T19:14:00.001-04:00

Check out the 8 alternatives to apple cider vinegar rinses

Natural Hair Pet Peeves-GET OUT OF MY HEAD

2011-09-19T22:42:00.000-04:00

GET OUT OF MY HEAD

People (and companies) that talk about using oil for moisture. Oil does NOT moisturize your hair. It can soften, seal, protect, but not moisturize.
People who say “twa” as oppose to “t-w-a” this is just annoying. It seems like you are trying to sound faux-french or fancy.
People who go on message boards or FB pages and ask questions without first reading a book, googling or simply reading previous posts.
Companies that take some shea butter mix it up with some essential oils then try to sell a 4oz jar for $12. Stop. It. Now.
People who complain about their hair being dry but drink less than 1 glass of actual water a day. Your body needs water and your hair and skin will be the first to suffer the consequences, so drink up.
18-month long protective style challenges. I’m exaggerating but what is the point of having something nice if you never show it off? Reminds me of Smiegel from Lord of the Rings.
Company’s marketing gimicks that claim far-fetched returns on some basic ingredient that is last on the ingredients list. *smh*
Hair Vitamins/Supplements. I don’t really hate vitamins, but I hate that ppl put more faith in taking a magic pill then actually eating a balanced diet.
Fake product reviews on Youtube where the product was not properly applied or even used correctly. Have some intellectual honesty. I once saw a review where a girl applied a new gel on hair that already had product in it from earlier that day and only applied it to her hair line then called it a great definer. C’mon son.
People who OVER do it when it comes to the amount of a product or the number of products used. I have seen people use an entire 8 oz jar of come hair cream to twist their hair which was maybe chin length when stretched then wondered why their hair felt coated. Less is more.

Best times to drink Water

2011-09-16T15:21:00.000-04:00

I really gotta work on this!

The Best Times To Drink H20

September 16, 2011 · Filed under Detoxing, Health

You CANNOT survive without drinking water. Point. Blank. Period.
Your body thrives off it. Your body needs it and your body performs better when there’s a surplus of it. Your hair reacts positively to plenty of water as well.
But did you know there are optimal times to drink water? (Yea, who knew?)
Aside from the recommended eight glasses a day, if you drink water at certain times, you can prevent health risks. Wanna know the top four times to have a glass of agua? Get your pen and pad ready.
1) Two glasses of water after waking up helps to activate internal organs
So, you know when you first get up, you’re kind of out of it, right? You need to wipe the morning crust out of your eye and then get situated. Well, your body does too. If you drink two glasses of cold water in the morning your internal organs begin to wake up as well, which helps you take on the day. Dope, right?
2) One Glass Of Water 30 Minutes Before Bed Helps Digestion.
There’s nothing like a nice home-cooked meal. Especially if that meal happens to come equipped with baked mac-and-cheese, greens and dressing. Now, meals like that are a once in a while venture, but if you drink a nice glass of water before you chow down, it’ll help you when it’s time for you to go, ya know?
3) One Glass of Water Before Taking A Bath Helps To Lower Blood Pressure.
On the work days when your boss is on 10 and the fax machine always seems to jam up when you use it, and the phones are ringing non stop, a bath is well deserved. However, just because you’ve left the office doesn’t mean your heart or the rest of your internal organs realize it. Drink one glass of water before you take a bath and the mounting blood pressure that’s occurred because of your 9 to 5 ,will be a thing of the past.
4) One Glass of Water Before Bed Can Help Avoid Stroke or Heart Attack

Satin Bonnet Struggles

2011-09-16T13:23:00.000-04:00

5 Ways To Wear Your Twists:: Protective Styles For Colder Months (Natura...

2011-09-11T19:05:00.000-04:00

Must try these

Diva white dinner

2011-09-05T15:54:00.000-04:00

Nothing to do with hair but my BFFs of 20+yrs get together once a month for dinner. We went to the Melting Pot last week and decided to all wear white. We all looked so good I cant help but share.

Side note on the weight loss. I'm still stalled but things are moving and settling out. I can really tell in my face and lower half lately. I almost don't recognize me. LOL

30 day photo challenge in review

2011-09-05T15:18:00.001-04:00

Im back!!

2011-09-05T14:02:00.000-04:00

The diva week in Orlando was AWESOME. I came back with a lovely kidney stone Im still trying to pass. I think I took a picture every day...along with 600 other photos!! Yea..really...600. I love taking pictures. Im gonna make a slide showing showing my hairstyles. I did have them numbered but lost track half way through.

Shealoe – Shea Butter + Aloe Vera Gel | Natural Hair Rules!!! Natural Hair Styles, Hair Care, & Inspiration

2011-09-05T13:57:00.000-04:00

Shealoe – Shea Butter + Aloe Vera Gel | Natural Hair Rules!!! Natural Hair Styles, Hair Care, & Inspiration

30 day photo challenge Day 11

2011-08-11T16:28:00.000-04:00

Alittle better. I just "flat twisted"...(I use the term loosly) the front and pulled the rest back with a goody clip. The polar bear says it was a very June Cleaver-ish style...maybe it was my flower print Blossom dress...i dont know..but..I think it works....mostly.

30 day photo challenge Day 10

2011-08-11T16:25:00.000-04:00

yeah...it was just a bad hair day....aint nothing much to say about it. LOL

30 day photo challenge Day 8 & 9

2011-08-09T22:26:00.000-04:00

Today was DC with Aussie Moist 3 min re constructor and coconut oil for a few hours and cowash/band.

I started packing for the diva trip. Im a bad packer..I dont think I can do 8 days with less than 3 bags. Clothes are done in 2 but I still got shoes, bathroom and hair stuff and jewelry to do. Thats another bag.

I only managed a few pics yesterday.
Day 8

30 day photo challenge Day7

2011-08-07T22:31:00.001-04:00

Im getting ready to go on the diva trip with my BFFs. We are going to Orlando, FL. Im very excited. J and I went to my stepmom, who makes jewlry, to get some peices for the trip. I got caught in a downpour of rain and my hair frizzed up some but not horrible. I really like this routine so 8-10 twist and twist-out the next day. Id like to think its ok to wear it like this more often than not. Its not a protective style but Im not putting any tension or raking through it alot.

J and I played Beauty Shop. I blew out her fro and put it up and puffs and then made her some flax seed gel that wasnt as stinky...The lemon was abit strong though.

30 day photo challenge Day 6

2011-08-06T22:29:00.000-04:00

Been shopping and running around today. Just managed one pic. I did mist and retwist my hair last night. I think I can really dig this style!! Note the awesome jewelry from Natural Hair Wear!!

THE NATURAL HAVEN: Mineral Oil is Evillllll!! (or maybe not?)

2011-08-06T11:34:00.000-04:00

Thank God for the smart folks who can break it down!

THE NATURAL HAVEN: Mineral Oil is Evillllll!! (or maybe not?): "Ok so I really don't do sensationalist headlines, please blame this one on Alice ( fab blog ) who sent this email with this title to me :). ..."

Specifically for hair, mineral oil is useful for

1. Preventing the hair fibre from swelling too much when placed in water (see this post).
2. Preventing moisture entry in humid conditions (see this post)
3. Preventing UV damage to hair by forming a 'protective' layer which stops breakdown of the amino acids in the hair (Journal of the Society of Cosmetic Chemists, pg 109-122, 1993).

The sticking point (pun intended) of mineral oil is simply that, it sticks to the outside of the hair. It does not penetrate the hair like coconut oil does. Therefore, it is perhaps not the most beneficial oil that could be used on hair.

I definitely also agree that some hair can handle mineral oil better than others. Factors that could affect this include

1. How often you wash your hair with shampoo (more washing less build up)
2. How far up is mineral oil on the ingredient list on the product (top 5 listing means more mineral oil than if it appears in the bottom 5)
3. How often do you use the product with mineral oil (daily use probably means more accumulation than weekly or fortnightly use).

Avoiding mineral entirely for whatever reason is not bad, however using pseudo science to justify this is the problem.

NaturallyCurly's Frizz Forecast

2011-08-06T10:51:00.000-04:00

NaturallyCurly's Frizz Forecast: "View a forecast of frizz-levels in your area"

NaturallyCurly's Frizz Forecast gives you instant weather reports on conditions that can cause frizzy hair. You'll also get recommendations for frizzy hair remedies to keep your hair looking great—whatever the conditions are outside. Just enter your hair type and location to get your forecast now.

30 day photo challenge Day 5

2011-08-05T23:56:00.000-04:00

Went to see planet of the apes with the polar bear. I loved it.
My hair did great. Still had alot of curl. I just put some flax seed gel to redefine the top and moved my part to the center. I always like it when I see it on other women....on me...eyyyy. I dont know. I will mist and do 6-8 twist tonight and wear down again tomorrow I think. Try and make that part better looking. LOL
I got one decent picture of my curl pattern before I got ready. I suck at taking pics...but love to take them. LOL.

Edgy Twist Out on Natural Hair

2011-08-05T13:53:00.000-04:00

30 day photo challenge Day 4

2011-08-04T16:55:00.000-04:00

Ive not left the house today so I decided to tuck and roll my curls. The flaxseed has my hair still so soft...and curly.

30 day photo challenge Day 3

2011-08-03T19:29:00.000-04:00

yesterday was day 2

Today is Day 3 Last night i lightly misted with green tea spritz to finger comb and make 9 Miss Ceily twist braids using my flax-seed gel. Today I separated with a bit of avocado oil on my hands.

frizzed out twist out...

2011-08-03T19:25:00.000-04:00

Part of my problem too was spritzing before hand. I didnt intend on taking them down when I did. LOL...mental note: dont talk on phone when making hair decisions.

twist

2011-07-30T21:20:00.000-04:00

I havent twisted my hair in ages but after the concert I had to wash and condition my hair so I said what the hay. No major plans so I can keep them in for 4-5 days. ummm yeahhhh....way too much work. Took all day and not even close to presentable. Oh well thats what headbands are for.

2011-07-30T21:17:00.000-04:00

Dead tired after the Def Leppard concert. Fake puff over my hair since I knew Id be soaked in sweat from dancing in the heat.

The Good Hair Blog: Protective Style Challenge

2011-07-27T11:26:00.000-04:00

The Good Hair Blog: Protective Style Challenge: "As many of you know, I've been wearing protective styles for months now. Since about December I have tried to wear my hair (95% of the t..."

Im going to try this challenge for the next 3 months!! I have the tools and options...I just need to do it. I suffer hand in hair syndrome really bad.

How to meet that goal:

NO HEAT
NO cutting (unless you have to eliminate single strand knots)
NO dry brushing/combing
Handle your hair with care
Wash when NECESSARY (I will be washing my hair in between protective styles, about once ever 2.5 weeks)
Deep conditioning 2x a month
Sealing moisture into the hair to eliminate breakage and dryness
Keeping ends tucked and in styles that are low maintenance
Taking vitamins and drinking ample amounts of water

Style Options:

Buns
Twists
Braided updos
Full weave installs (where hair is SEWN NOT GLUED)

Wet Bunning on Natural Hair

2011-07-19T20:48:00.000-04:00

This is how to do a bun without the foam thingy. I think I have enough length for it.

Ohio is hot as H-E-L-L

2011-07-19T20:30:00.000-04:00

I actually had to leave the house today and had lunch with former coworkers. Its been too long. I fussed a few mins over what to do with my hair but as hot as it is.....Nothing to do but bun today.

I used the foam thingy to make the donut bun. My friend told me foam damages the hair. Just my luck. I guess I will try to twist like Elle. I gotta find the tutorial she did.

Carrier Oils, Essential Oils & My Other Natural Products!

2011-07-19T20:21:00.000-04:00

Oils broken down

✿ 68 ✿ My ONE Hairstyle for ANY Occasion!

2011-07-17T23:28:00.000-04:00

How cute is this?!!!? Im gonna have to try it too!

How to use apple cider vinegar (ACV)

2011-07-14T11:08:00.000-04:00

Here is the recipe that we use for ACV:

2 Tablespoons ACV
1 cup (8 oz) of warm water

We have used both a spray bottle and a squirt bottle to add it to the hair and have found that a spray bottle with a stream option works best for us. Getting the ACV to the roots of the hair is the most important for all of it's benefits, so just a straight spray wouldn't really work in getting it where it needs to go. The squirt bottle was helpful, but actually was a little hard to control where the flow was going. That's just our experience, though.

You can actually use ACV instead of shampoo. In fact, we do not use shampoo at all anymore. We will either co-wash (conditioner-only wash) or use ACV when I good clarifying wash is necessary. Boo's hair stays nicely moisturized and yet perfectly cleaned without having to use heavily alkaline shampoo products.

So, back to the gunk, or goo, that Mama Holli was asking about. You can use the AVC rinse just like you would a shampoo to cleanse all of the hair, or you can spot use it on just some trouble spots, like the little areas around the area where it built up around a rubber band. Either way, it's been our go-to way of attacking the goo and a very inexpensive way to do so.

On a side note, I have only used the raw, organic version of ACV, like Bragg's. I would imagine the benefits would be greater the closer the ACV is to it's original state. I can only assume that the more processed the ACV is, the less likely you are to see its full benefits. Also, the health benefits outlined above are not exclusive to chocolate hair! They are equally as useful for vanilla hair and can be used as a clarifying shampoo for any hair type when you want a more natural way to wash hair and/or you just want to get that greasy, oily feeling out!

Banded Ponytails Protective Style TUTORIAL for CurlyKinkyCoily (med to l...

2011-07-10T14:34:00.000-04:00

I know my head is too big for this style but its easy and quick...and well...I cant do nothing about my block head so Im gonna rock it anyways.

Natural product...junkie

2011-07-08T17:49:00.000-04:00

Ok, so I did some cleaning out of my products and decided I didnt really have a whole lot. Im dont think Im a product junkie. Now I might be a slight hoarder of natural oils...but I just like to be prepared. The few commercial products I have I dont really use often but Im reluctant to let them go. I might need them in a pinch or something. LOL

My cowashes. I rotate these...there are probably 3 other bottles in the shower. Almost everything has some sort of oil added to it.

These are my spritz's of various concoctions. There is glycerin, vitamin E in every one of them..some have conditioner in. The application bottle is my castor oil/tea tree mix.

My main essential oils

The styling products...there arent that many. I am slowly working through the Carol's daughter stuff and the eco gels. Now that Im using my own flax seed gel I probably dont need them but....you never know,


I really dont shampoo often...maybe once a month depending on how heavy I get with stuff. Again everything has an oil or 3 added into it. The soaps are new. Cant wait to see how they work,

My beloved oils...I just want to add some avocado oil...I need some more coconut oil too....hmm

wash ands go with my homemade flax seed gel

2011-07-07T22:04:00.000-04:00

I did a wash n go today for the first time in probably 6-8 months. I used flaxseed gel I made. My tiny curls are hanging tough. Shrinkage is just foul but the definition is cool. Thinking about pineapple it tonight and see how day 2 fairs. its alittle crunchy right now but bouncy. I washed and didnt put an oil underneath the gel so I think that has something to do with it because when I use it other times it is soft. The gel itself is almost like eco styler...more gooey...snotty for lack of a better word. Its in an old soap dispenser bottle. I added some tea tree, rosemary and vit E.

All Things O'Natural: Let's Talk Hair: The Benefits of COOL WATER RINSIN...

2011-07-06T22:59:00.000-04:00

All Things O'Natural: Let's Talk Hair: The Benefits of COOL WATER RINSIN...: " Hola Chicas/Chicos...I pray all is well with everyone. So what's the benefit of cool water rinsing?? I'm sure ,at some point during your..."

Cool Water Rinsing: Why It Works

Each hair has three layers: the innermost layer, the cuticle; the middle layer, the cortex; and the outer layer, which is comprised of scales arranged like the shingles on a roof. Warm water opens up the cuticle, causing the scales on the outer layer to stick out. This makes it possible for shampoos and conditioners to penetrate the hair shaft more easily. But if the cuticle is left open, the scales continue to stick out, and they make the hair look frizzy, rough and damaged. Rinsing the hair with cool water causes the cuticle to close again. When the cuticle is closed, the scales on the surface of the hair shaft lie flat, and the hair looks smooth and shiny.

Twist Out Method 101: How-To and Maintaining

2011-07-06T15:31:00.000-04:00

I really need to learn how to twist like this. Her hair is just wow

Dead Prez " The Beauty Within" (Official Video).mov

2011-07-06T13:04:00.000-04:00

So many versions....visions of beauty

Afro Day today

2011-07-04T23:16:00.001-04:00

The top half of my head is very fine with little curl. I managed to coax ole girl into representing for the holiday. The polar bear and I went to dinner and it was funny the folks looking at my hair. Im not sure Ive ever noticed it before but it was definite "Oh look". I guess it was pretty out there.

Im kinda/sorta/not really worried about detangling because I had to tease the top abit to stand up. She did good. Im becoming quite proud of her.

Mr. likes to take pics when you not looking

I did feel pretty with her just running free.

How To Transition Or Protective Style With A Weave

2011-07-04T12:04:00.000-04:00

Current naturalistas, if you want to use hair pieces for protective styling, that’s cool too. Just pay very close attention to maintenance and hair hygiene. Follow my 4 tips, and in no time, you’ll be well on your way to gorgeous natural hair!

1. Watch your hairline and loosen up

It’s not a good look to wear a wig that looks like its eating your forehead or wear extensions that are so tight that your eyebrows stay raised in a perpetually surprised look. And besides not being a good look, these are also the quickest ways to cause hair loss. Every time you remove that hair piece, you’re stripping hair right out of your follicles- which equals permanent hair loss. So if you want to use a hair piece, avoid tight styles and do not glue anything directly to your hair or hairline.

2) Take vitamins

When you wear a hair piece, it’s important to remember that you should also be paying attention to the health of your own natural hair underneath. There will come the time when you won’t want to wear your weave/wig anymore. So while you’re rocking your cute little hair piece, make sure to eat healthy, drink lots of water, and take vitamins. The thing to remember is that healthy hair starts from the inside out. So take a good multivitamin, biotin, or prenatal vitamins, which are great for optimal hair growth and hair health.

3) Moisturize your natural hair

While you wear your hair piece, you should also make sure you moisturize your natural hair- don’t just forget about it underneath your hair piece. There are tons of hair products options. I’m natural haired, was recently featured in Essence and talked about some of the hair products I use. You will have to experiment with what works for you. There’s bad stuff, good stuff, and great stuff. And when it comes to the bad stuff, I will say that there are a few ingredients that you should definitely limit or avoid. These ingredients are sodium lauryl sulfate, alcohol, petroleum and mineral oil- all of which cause buildup, are drying, pore-clogging and moisture-blocking. Instead use products from reputable brands, as well as products that contain great moisturizers like olive oil and jojoba oil.

4) Regularly shampoo, condition, and style

I cannot stress enough that regular shampooing, conditioning, and styling is a very important part of transitioning/protective styling with a weave or wig. Don’t go longer than 1 week without washing your hair. Buildup of hair products and bacteria, can lead to mild and even serious scalp inflammation and infections, which can also lead to hair loss. And if you’re fortunate not to get an infection, there is the embarrassment of having smelly hair. And nobody wants that. Basically, you can’t just slap on a hair piece and think that’s the end of things. You have to be as meticulous as you would have been without the hair piece. Comb it. Wash it. Style it. Wrap your hair at night. Be good to it. Love it! Even though it’s not your actual hair, it’s still a product that needs to be taken care of and maintained as you transition.

Fake puff for protection

2011-07-01T19:22:00.001-04:00

Fake puff on the left...real puff on the right:

A smaller one with lighter color

NATURAL HAIR JOURNEY: Over the Past 5 Years (Waistlength)

2011-07-01T18:52:00.000-04:00

I just saw this video. This diva now has waist length hair. 5-6 yrs. Simply amazing. 4a/b hair too. Just wow.

Curly Nikki | Natural Hair Styles and Curly Hair Care: 7 Signs You May Be Obsessed With Your Natural Hair...

2011-07-01T12:30:00.000-04:00

Curly Nikki | Natural Hair Styles and Curly Hair Care: 7 Signs You May Be Obsessed With Your Natural Hair...: "Photo Source by Tammy of CurlyChics When the love of your natural hair crosses the line to Obsessionville, it may be time to reevaluate ..."

I might have a problem.

1. You treat your hair like another human being
You often refer to your coils as "her", as if you are speaking about one of your friends and have even given them a name.

"Mahogany and I are spending some quality time together this weekend”.

2. No conversation goes by without mention of your hair
Your friends are apprehensive about even mentioning the word “hair” for fear that you will start on a natural hair tirade. You repeatedly chant India Arie’s “I Am Not My Hair” however; your afro almost always ends up being the topic of discussion. You turn something totally unrelated into a dialogue about natural hair.

Your friend: “It’s raining outside”
You: “I’m glad I’m natural, I don’t have to worry about rain”

3. You spend hour after hour perusing the Natural Hair blogs and Twitter
Your entire day is centered around the latest and greatest products or hairstyles for natural hair. You find it difficult to focus at work until you’ve had your cup of joe and done your daily natural hair blog browsing and you can’t wait to get home to your laptop in the evenings to continue.

Mae's Updated BLOW OUT Regimen

2011-07-01T11:49:00.000-04:00

i WISH mine would blowup like this

How to Do Mini-Twists on Natural Hair (Without Driving Yourself Crazy!)

2011-06-30T19:40:00.000-04:00

I might have to try this. She makes it look simple. I love the look of mini twist.

Hair reciepe's

2011-06-30T19:33:00.000-04:00

Spritz Recipes

Moisturizing

1 tbs. oil (olive, avocado, grapeseed, sweet almond)

2 tbs. light conditioner

½ cup water

Mix ingredients in a spray bottle and shake well. Spray onto twists and braids for softness and sheen.

LEAVE- IN CONDITIONER

Kimmaytube’s Leave-in Conditioner

1 oz Knot Today Leave-In (or 2 tablespoons of YOUR preferred leave-in)
2 tablespoons of (Whole leaf version) Aloe Vera Juice with a pH 4.0 or 4.5
2 teaspoons of Castor Oil (optional. I sometimes do without it)
2 teaspoons of Jojoba Oil
Mix well.

Conditioning Recipes

Honey

3 tbs. honey

¼ cup olive oil

Warm the honey in your microwave for about 20 to 30 seconds. Mix in the oil. Work a small amount at a time through your hair until it is coated. Leave on 30 minutes. Shampoo and rinse well.

Cucumber

2 tbs. olive oil

1 egg

¼ cucumber, peeled and pureed

Herbal

1 tsp. honey

1 egg

3 drops rosemary oil

¼ cup almond or coconut oil

Put the egg in a bowl and beat in honey. Pour this mixture into the top of a double boiler. Stir the mixture until it is warm and creamy. Remove from the stove. Once the mixture is cool, slowly add the oil and stir until completely blended. Work the mixture through your hair and leave on for a minimum of 15 to 30 minutes. Shampoo and rinse well.

Egg

1 tbs. honey

1 egg yolk

½ tsp. almond oil

1 tbs. yogurt

Mix all ingredients together until well blended. Apply to your hair and leave on for at least 30 minutes. Shampoo and rinse well.

Treatments

Strengthening

1 egg white

5 tbs. plain unflavored yogurt

Beat the egg white until it is foamy. Fold in the yogurt. Apply the mixture to your hair in small sections at a time. Leave on for 15 minutes. Rinse well and follow with a leave in conditioner.

Growth

¼ cup vitamin E oil

¼ cup castor or jojoba oil

A few drops rosemary oil

A few drops peppermint oil

This treatment includes ingredients that help promote hair growth. You can use a little bit each night if you shampoo or use a clarifying mixture at least a few times a week to avoid clogged hair follicles. Mix the ingredients in a small container and gently massage a small amount onto the desired areas.

Hot Oil

¼ cup olive or oil

1 tbs. regular conditioner

This simple hot oil treatment can be used weekly or monthly. If your hair is over-processed or extremely damaged, start by using it twice a week. Combine the ingredients in a saucepan and warm over medium heat until the mixture is fully combined and warm, about 5 minutes. Once the oil is cool enough to touch, work it

Scalp Scrub

1 tbs. brown sugar

3 tbs. regular conditioner

Massaging your scalp on a regular basis stimulates oil production and can help reduce the dryness of your hair. Stir the sugar into the conditioner and apply the mixture to a damp scalp. Massage into your scalp using small circular motions to gently exfoliate. Shampoo and rinse well.

Economy of Style: Hair Story Part IV

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I've been seeing this alot lately it seems. I have felt with my few extra inches...whew this is alot of work. Not to mention Im not sure how much sense it makes to have long hair but have to keep it locked away 95% of the time in order to keep it healthy.
I DO miss wash n go in 10 mins. simple style options and hair staying wherever you put it.

As bad as I want to loc its nice to see you can undo them without going bald.

Economy of Style: Hair Story Part IV: "In the last few years, I have made some major and sometimes spontaneous changes to my hair. Many of you have noticed and I have received a ..."

Love Potion #9: The Recipe of Oils I Use to Moisturize my Hair

2011-06-23T20:22:00.001-04:00

Love Potion #9: The Recipe of Oils I Use to Moisturize my Hair

I just found this blog...yet something else I want to make. I really need to stop.

"I have found my dream concoction that works in moisturizing my strands and I am holding on steadfast. You may have found a mix that works well for you but if you haven’t or maybe you are just up to trying something new, here is the recipe for my Love Potion #9.

½ cup of Extra Virgin Coconut Oil

1/4th cup of Jojoba Oil

3 tbsp of Extra Virgin Olive Oil

1 tsp of Castor Oil

3 drops of Rosemary Oil

Tip: To mix the oils with ease since coconut oil is of a hard consistency if not warmed. Boil about 2 cups of water in a small pot. Once water has boiled wait 2 minutes to cool for a bit and place your sturdy plastic container in the pot till the oils liquify and then freeze till oils are of hard or desired consistency :)

Coily Cafe: What's in Your Kitchen?: Lemons

2011-06-22T20:08:00.000-04:00

Coily Cafe: What's in Your Kitchen?: Lemons: "When life gives you lemons make lemonade...for your hair! We know that hint of lemon in our hair or on our skin makes you feel fresh, zesty,..."
Oily hair? Most of us don't have this problem but if you do, you can create a shampoo of sorts to rid of this problem. Add the juice of two lemons to a quart of water. Stir the mixture. The lemon hair rinse will help to reduce the excess oil in the hair. Lemon juice will also improve hair growth and reduce dandruff.

How-To: Oil Rinse and Why You Should « Clutch Magazine

2011-06-22T12:00:00.000-04:00

How-To: Oil Rinse and Why You Should « Clutch Magazine

Try an oil rinse to lock in your hair’s moisture, increase shine, soften hair follicles, promote growth and ease the detangling process.

Follow these steps to oil rinse and you’ll be on your way to stronger, longer hair.

1-Wash your hair with shampoo. If you are only co-washing, rinse your hair ensuring it’s completely wet.

2- Part hair into four sections (or more depending on hair’s thickness and length).

3- Saturate hair and scalp with the oil of your choice. Don’t be fooled by fancy products and packaging, take it back to basics with natural products from the pantry like jojoba oil, meadow foam seed oil, avocado oil, amla oil, argan oil, and coconut oil, which are all great mixed together or used singularly. (You can use an application bottle if you mix multiple oils together.)

4- Using the tips of your fingers gently massage the oil from root-to-tip stroking in a downward motion.

5-Cover hair with a plastic cap and leave the oil on hair for a minimum of 45 minutes to an hour (You can decide on a longer length of time at your own discretion.)

6- Detangle hair using a wide-tooth comb or a Denman brush and rinse the oil in hot water.

7- Follow-up with your regular conditioner. Rinse out with cool water to remove oil residue.

This sounds like a good idea. Ill have to try it.

Lemongrass Cleanser

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Lemongrass Cleanser

i want to try this
Lemongrass is an herb used in Thai and Vietnamese cooking. Make a hair rinse using 2-3 teaspoons dried herbs (or 3 times as much fresh herbs) with 1 cup of boiling water. Let it steep for 15 minutes, strain out the herbs and use it as a hair wash or rinse (before conditioning unless you have oily hair) when it has cooled. Add a teaspoon of vegetable glycerin as a humectant, if you like.

year 2-3

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DAY 1 (AM): ShidaNatural's 7-day "CG" Program (for summer)... Define Cur...

2011-06-16T19:24:00.000-04:00

ShidaNatural* Natural Hair Care & Styling on you tube.
Subscribe to this woman. Her knowledge and detailed videos are amazing!!

Curly Nikki | Natural Hair Styles and Curly Hair Care: The Art of Sealing- Natural Hair

2011-06-16T19:16:00.001-04:00

Curly Nikki | Natural Hair Styles and Curly Hair Care: The Art of Sealing- Natural Hair: "by Reignelle of Reignelle.com You will be applying these in layers to the length of your hair. Its optimal to seal on your wash days, whe..."

1. Start with wet hair.
Water is the only true form of moisture, if water is not present, neither is moisture.

2. Apply a leave-in, moisturizer or creme.
Try Direct Leave-In or your favorite water based leave-in. Avoid products that claim to moisturize, but have petroleum or mineral oil in the first five ingredients.

3. Apply a top coat of an oil or butter.
Olive Oil, Grapeseed Oil, and Coconut Oil, and Raw Shea or Mango butter are all great choices and can be found in most health food stores such as Whole Foods or Trader Joes.
Found in most Beauty Supply Stores, Elasta QP Mango Butter is also a great choice!

I prefer a light oil like grapeseed. It doesn't weigh my hair down, break out my skin, or leave me feeling "oily".

Applying oil or a thick hair butter, keeps the moisturizing products within the hair strand. This is the most important step.

4. Style as Normal.
Maybe try a protective style if you are looking to grow out your hair.

This has also made the world of difference for me in the past few months. It seems so simple...basic knowledge but ummm..I had no clue!

Quick but simple style tutorial

2011-06-16T18:46:00.000-04:00

style to try

homemade flaxseed gel

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This stuff is the bizness for me!!! It lays my beast down like butta!!! and its natural!!

My favorite summer spritz!

2011-06-16T18:23:00.004-04:00

My favorite thing: The rosewater spritz. OMG!! Amazing. I cant stop touching my hair. its so solft and fluffy...not "greasy".

The basic ingredients are: 4-8 oz of rose water, 1/3 cup aloe vera gel, 1/3 cup vegetable glycerin (adjust aloe and glycerin as needed) and a few drops of rosemary essential oil. (I used tree tea oil instead of rosmary)

you can also change out the essential oil or add additional oils to suit your tastes. for example you could also add olive oil, peppermint oil, and tea tree oil (tea tree is good for those battling dandruff).

this hair spritz is sure to please – especially type 4s with very coarse hair. with consistent use, it makes your hair very, very soft. just add all of the ingredients to a bottle and shake well. that’s it. no blending or anything else needed!

Shealoe Mousse

2011-06-16T18:23:00.003-04:00

I made this a few weeks ago and my hair and body are loving this recipe!

SOURCE

Shealoe Butter Mousse Recipe

I told y’all I was going to try this in my last post and I wasn’t kidding. Last night I went into the kitchen armed with my hand mixer and collection of oils and I added a little of this and a little of that and voilá I had my concoction of what I’m calling Shealoe Butter Mousse.

What I was going for was a light butter that I could use both on my skin and hair. For this reason I didn’t add more shea butter but if you want a thicker butter you can go ahead and add more shea. This recipe yields a light fluffy whipping-cream-textured “butter”. The key to this recipe is not to get any water in the mix. If water gets in you’re likely to experience fungus growing on your masterpiece…unless of course you use some type of preservative.

So here’s the recipe:

Ingredients
¼ cup coconut oil
2 heaping tbsp shea butter
2 tbsp aloe vera gel
1 tsp jojoba
1 tsp vegetable glycerin
¼ tsp vitamin E
¼ tsp fragrance oil of your choice

Directions

1. In a small bowl melt together the coconut oil and shea butter in the microwave until it is just melted. Do not boil it. I nuke mine in 30 second increments until the shea butter is almost completely melted.
2. In a measuring cup, measure out the aloe vera gel.
3. On medium speed with a hand mixer, start beating the melted shea and coconut oil. While beating, slowly add the aloe vera gel. The mixture will start turning white. Beat for about 3 mins.
4. Leave the mixture to cool for about 30 mins. As it cools it will thicken.
5. After the 30 minute period beat the mixture for 5 -10 mins to incorporate more air and make it lighter.
6. Add the vegetable glycerin, jojoba oil and vitamin E. Whip until completely incorporated.
7. Add your choice of fragrance oil (I chose oatmeal milk and honey fragrance oil) and whip again until completely incorporated.
8. Spoon into a container and store in a cool dry place.

♡♡♡LUVNaturals #26 Protective Style - 1940's inspired look

2011-06-16T18:23:00.000-04:00

♡♡♡LUVNaturals #1 "Wash, Tuck and Go" hairstyle :-)

2011-06-16T18:22:00.000-04:00

Another protective style I want to try.

How to Make Homemade Flaxseed Hair Gel | eHow.com

2011-06-16T18:19:00.000-04:00

How to Make Homemade Flaxseed Hair Gel | eHow.com

Easy Natural Hair Tutorial: Side Puff and Front Flat Twist

2011-06-16T17:59:00.001-04:00

I really dig this chick!! Her hair is alot thicker than mine but I love this look. Ive tried it once...didnt quite make it but I wore it anyways. I dont think my beast will do the side puff and I cant flat twist and ended up just kinda rolling it...but I think Im getting close.

All Things O'Natural: Let's Talk Skin: TONE UP WITH A NATURAL TONER

2011-06-16T17:50:00.001-04:00

All Things O'Natural: Let's Talk Skin: TONE UP WITH A NATURAL TONER: "Greetings, beautiful naturals...I can't express how important it is to incorporate a toner into your facial cleansing regimen. Let's face ..."

Im making and using the witch hazel/tea tree combo. LOVE IT
now this is the mixture that I use and I can't rave enough about it.

* 2oz Apple Cider Vinegar
* 2 oz distilled water (this you will boil and add 3 green tea bags to and steep for 20 minutes, then let cool.)
* 10 drops of Jojoba Oil
* 5 drops of Tea Tree Oil
* 5 drops of Lemon Grass Oil (this is optional. I add it to dilute the smell of the vinegar and it has wonderful antibacterial properties)
* Mix the ingredients in a spray bottle. Be sure to shake well before each use, as natural elements tend to seperate.

Tea Tree Toner:

* 2oz of Witch Hazel
* 5 drops of Tea Tree Oil
* 10 drops of Jojoba Oil

All Things O'Natural: Let's Talk Skin: The Oil Cleansing Method

2011-06-16T17:49:00.001-04:00

Ive been doing this for about a week and I must say I realllllly like it. It makes my skin feel so good. I struggle with the headgame of cleansing with oil. I feel like I should have soap but I love it. My skin still seems to be abit oily so I think Im going to add alittle more jojoba oil.

All Things O'Natural: Let's Talk Skin: The Oil Cleansing Method: "Ok, I know you may be wondering, why on earth would I recommend using oil on the skin? Simply put, cleansing with oil is a gentle way to..."

Now, most oil cleansers combine 50% Castor Oil to 50% Extra Virgin Olive Oil, but you can pick the best mixture for you. Castor Oil is used as the base in the oil cleansing method because it helps to draw out toxins, slough dead skin cells, excess oil and dirt from your pores. The secondary oil acts more like a moisturizer and carrier oil to deliver theraputic properties deep into the skin. I have combo/acne prone skin, so I use 60% Castor Oil, 20% Sweet Almond Oil and 20% Grapeseed Oil. I also add a few drops of tea tree and peppermint oil to my mixture.

Here are wonderful oils for certain skin types:

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Oily Acne Prone Skin: Grapeseed Oil, Hazelnut Oil, Jojoba Oil, Flax seed, Neem Oil, Almond Oil
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Dry Mature Skin: Evening Primrose Oil, Olive Oil, Avacado Oil, Apricot Kernel Oil
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Sensitive Skin: Meadowfoam Oil, Apricot Kernel Oil, Rosehip Oil

Here are some wonderful essential oils for certain skin types:

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Oily Skin: Tea Tree Oil, Peppermint Oil, Lavender Oil, Rosewood Oil, Bergamont Oil
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Dry Skin: Cedarwood Oil, Rose, Myrrh, Chamomile, Pachouli
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Acne Prone: Frankincense, Lemon Grass, Clary Sage, Tea Tree, Peppermint

The Oil Cleansing Method Directions:

* You'll need a soft washcloth, your oil blend, and hot, running water.

* Pour a generous puddle of oil into the palm of your hand. Roughly, the size of a quarter, but more is acceptable. Rub your hands together to warm the oil and smooth over your face.

* Begin massaging the oil into your face. This will remove makeup, dirt, and other impurities, so there is no need to use a makeup remover or wash your face prior to the massage. I've found that this removes even my stubborn waterproof mascara and concealor.

* Using slow, firm motions across the skin, massage the oil deeply into your pores. Take your time and focus on your problem areas. You want the oil to work into your pores so that blackheads and the like can be dissolved and steamed away.

* As you're massaging, let your mind drift off to something calming and breathe deeply. Take this time to relax and release some of the stress that your body is harboring. Sit down, breathe deeply, and take your time. Give the oil enough time to work on dissolving the impurities in your pores and give yourself enough time to unwind. Picture what your face would look like if it were completely clear and free from blemishes. Focus on that image and know that it is attainable. Trust that it is attainable. Accept that it is attainable. You can have clear skin, free of blemishes and you will have clear skin, free of blemishes. Focus on perfect skin and breathe deeply.

* Once you're satisfied that your pores are saturated and you're feeling calm, pick up your washcloth and soak it in clean, steamy water. We want the water to be warm enough to open your pores and remove the oil. Cool water will not open your pores, nor will it remove the oil efficiently. We're not scalding our skin, we're steaming to coax our pores to release the oil carrying the impurities. We're essentially steaming our skin as an esthetician would, but without the luxury of a steam machine.

* Hold the washcloth to cover your face. Allow it to stay until it cools. You will feel your pores releasing the impurities. Wipe the oil gently away and rinse the washcloth well in hot, running water. Hold the washcloth to your face again, allowing it to cool. Wipe gently, rinse well, and repeat two or three more times. Avoid any temptation to scrub, as you'll find it's completely unnecessary and your skin will be soft, smooth, and free of flakes without the additional manual exfoliation and irritation that will result. Impurities, dead skin cells, and bacteria will be gently swept away.

* Have no fear of the oil, as the steamy washcloth will remove it. The Castor Oil, though it is an oil, will help with the removal of the other oils, as well. It is our main cleansing oil and is easily removed with warm water.
* If your skin feels tight, take a tiny drop of your oil blend. I use Grapeseed oil as my moisturizer, because it is a natural astringent and is the lightest of all the oils. Trust me, it does not make your skin feel oily. Rub it between your clean, damp palms and pat it onto your damp skin. Gently massage any oil residue into your skin so there is no film of oil left sitting on the surface. Your skin should now glow!

* Word of the wise..do not reuse the same wash cloth if you have not washed it. Wash cloths harbor bacteria which is a major culprit of the little nasty critters we hate..yikes!

Remember, choose the oil blend that works for you...

All Things O'Natural: Let's Talk Hair: Repairing Thinning Edges

2011-06-16T17:47:00.000-04:00

All Things O'Natural: Let's Talk Hair: Repairing Thinning Edges: "When it comes to being natural, there are a few concerns most of us share. We need tips for detangling, moisturizing, and styling our hair...."

From now on

2011-06-16T17:03:00.002-04:00

Im gonna use this blog to help me keep track of the various post and info Im learning on youtube and other bloggers. Im doing alot of mixing and using alot of essential and carrier oils.

Natural Progression

2011-06-16T16:52:00.001-04:00

Almost 3 years in!!!

Time flies

2010-12-14T13:34:00.005-05:00

End of my 1st year pictures

2009-06-18T17:56:00.001-04:00

Almost a year

2009-06-18T16:55:00.002-04:00

Hi all. I have to say thanks to all the encouraging notes sent to me since the disaster hair cut.

Its been almost a year since I did the BC and I am still mourning the loss of my bad hair cut. Its such a huge setback. Id been looking forward to this month and all the hair I would have had. I know...get over it. Its still growing and doing great. I can do my puffs and its fine. The bald spot is practically gone. I cant twist very well but it can be done.

I only cowash once a week or two....though I expect to increase that as it gets hotter. I do shampoo once a month or so. My newest favorite thing is apple vinegar rinses.(i part vinegar to 3 parts water) My hair comes out soooo curly and soft. Man gracious the stuff stinks to high heaven....and can burn alittle. Luckily the smell is gone from your hair once you rinse it out. I havent done a clarifying with baking soda yet but it is on the list.

The neatest thing is that I have found a fake puff ponytail. I love it!!! I know its cheating but it is simply perfect! I think my hair will be in the same place by the end of the year if not sooner...I hope. I dont wear it everyday but 3-4 times a week.

Im going to try to post more now that I have more time. The court decided to give our girls back to their bio mom last month. We were granted visitation one day a week for 6 hours. Its been one of the hardest thing to deal with. We know the girls are not safe. The 4 yr old tells us bad things happen and the 2 yr old is...well 2 but more clingy especially to DH. Yet when it is time to go we have to let them go even though we dont want to and they dont either...tell them to be strong and good...and pray nothing truly horrible happens to them. Child services only seems to want to protect kids after the damage is done. Ahh well...i wont get started. Pray for peace and safety.

All that work down the drain. I want to quit.

2009-04-03T18:12:00.008-04:00

OMG I am ready to scream. My hair has been growing like crazy and Ive been so tickled with it. Today I went to the barber and told him to cut the top down so its even so I could get rid of the pancake puff.

I have no hair. 9 months of hair GONE! My hair is almost as short as it was when I first chopped it off. I cant twist it. I cant wear a headband. My beautiful puff...poof! WHY???? Why are men so literal? Just cuz I said even my hair up does not mean cut it to the shortest length! I said cut the TOP to make it even. What would anyone think a WOMAN who came in looking like Don King would want such a low cut? Wouldnt you ask to make sure? Should I not go to barbers? It didnt feel like he was doing anything. I saw very little hair fall. Now I'm bald, mad and setback 6 mo! I know there is nothing I can do now. This looks worse than my 1st BC because of the shape. I look like a DUDE! This has been a week from hell. Trying to recover from another round of court hearings for the girls and a stomach bug that has had me and PB weak and cranky. Im just sick. I dont know if i want to start all over. I may have to fork out the cash for braids or invest in a instaweave since I threw all my old hair out. Ooo yall pray!

A picture I was going to post about how bigger twist made my twist out curlier a couple of weeks ago:

This today. Fresh from the shower and mad enough to spit:

Good Puff

2009-02-24T17:19:00.002-05:00

Well I had great puff weekend I had to share. I am so loving this natural hair of mine. I love watching the progress. So far I only have 2 or 3 thingies that hold my hair back well enough to make great puff and alas as soon as I went back to the mall they were gone. Bummer. Summer is comming and I hope to find something else. I thought there was anatural blog somewhere that sold them...but maybe they were for locs.

Feb good hair pics

2009-02-16T14:31:00.000-05:00

My Funny Valentines

2009-02-16T13:18:00.002-05:00

DH and I went to The Melting Pot a fondue resturant with 2 of our closest friends on Valentine's Day. OMG....this was the best stuff EVA!! Now I admit, I went prepared to stop by Wendy's on the way home. I didnt know diddly about fondue except cheese and chocolate but we had a 5 course meal that was simply amazing. The garlic and herb cheddar fondue was delicious! The main course was a platter of various meats: lobster tail, fillet Mignon pieces, salmon, balsamic sirloin, Memphis BBQ, pork tenderloin, honey Dijon chicken, jumbo raviolis, pot stickers that we boiled in this vegetable broth on the stickers. It was so fun and since everything was bite sized it didnt really seem like we ate a whole bunch. Now I admit after a glass of champagne and half a glass of wine babygirl was giggly as hell but it was sooo fun!! The place was pricey but there was nothing that was close to bad. Well worth it. Even the bar has little fondue bowls set up. Can you say Happy Hour!!?

None of the pictures seem to really capture the effect but the hair was on point! She smoothed back and curled up in the cutest puff. I had a brown scarf which was alittle plain but I just didnt want to wear black.

lateast

2009-02-16T12:48:00.000-05:00

Find more photos like this on K.I.N.K.Y Keep It Natural Know Yourself

MY Puff

2009-02-05T16:26:00.002-05:00

I did it...I did it. hey hey I did it. I got a puff...well..more like a poof at this point but its commin! whoohooo! I've been watching Youtube videos on how to tie the hair back with pantyhose and well...even tho I used a nylon sock it worked. Thats not what I used in the pics here but. Ive bought a few premade things to hold it back to see what works. I look at scarves but at $6-$10+ a pop I dont know.

I put a medium brown rinse in my hair. A first for me and I was disappointed. All it did was get rid of most of my grays. But now I know I wont die and my hair wont fall out.

Im thinking about getting crochet braids for a month or two to give me a break. Plus its just too damn cold and I need a protective style.

Im really not doing anything new as far as products although I do get the bug to try stuff sometimes but again...that stuff cost and my hair is diggin what Im doin so I will let it be. Im washing once every 2weeks or so because the puff shrinks like there is no tomorrow. I am thinking about getting a shape up and ends clipped. I havent done anything since the BC. Well....let me lie. I did try to clip a few ends and clipped too much in the front so Im gonna leave it to the pros before I do damage.

Check out this article on hair and Mrs. Obama.

6 months in review

2009-01-20T14:31:00.001-05:00

Twist OUT

2008-12-02T16:13:00.003-05:00

I think it worked. After being twisted for 2 days I undid it and ran my shaloe butter coated hands through the curls and this was the result. The more I play with it the more potential I see! Can you believe its already been 5 months and 9 days since I chopped my hair off!!?

2nd try

2008-12-01T13:32:00.004-05:00

Progress!! Notice they are smaller. Holding together somewhat better. I think Im going to get some cornrows for a few weeks because I am really just not happy. I was so excited about wearing a hat in the cold but then I have hat hair and i have to pick it out. Im sick of headbands..just Grrrr. I need a change. But twisties!! A few more inches and I would attempt to rock by itself.

I did it!!

2008-11-20T17:41:00.005-05:00

My own twist. Course they look a hot mess but I did it all by myself. They stayed together. ANDDD My hair is actually long enough for these man hands to wrap around!!!! Yippppeeee! I did these after cowashing my hair. BTW I am washing less and less. My hair shrinks so much I cant stand it and it takes at least a week before it gets managable. After these twist overnight I just spritzed with my glycerine, vit E, Castor Oil, Jojoba oil and suave conditioner and picked it out.

I finally made Shaloe butter and my hair is soooo loving it!! I melted the yellow Shae butter and allot of aloe vera, some vitamin E and Castor oil. Mixed it all up and BAM! It really makes my hair so soft.

I had to give up on the olive oil. It seemed to kinda just sit on my hair and get crunchy.
I am now at the legnth I need to do something. Wash and go looks weird. I look like whats her name on What's Happening....the waitress that was always mad. The headbands dont look right anymore either. I suppose I should cut the top off and even it up all around but if I loc or braid it I think I want the top alittle longer.

I dont know. Thats it for now. Im going to try to get some decent hair pics up. I never remember until after the fact.

The new face of America

2008-11-07T12:49:00.002-05:00

The new face of America

This is the picture that brought tears to my eyes. This black man with his black wife and those beautiful chocolate little girls will be in the White House. If you are not black you cannot come close to understanding the power their mere presence has. My little chocolate girls don't see their likeness on TV very often and when they do it isn't necessarily positive but they stopped playing ring-around-the-rosie last night and watched little girls that looked like them walk on to a stage representing their country. While they didn't truly understand the significance, their mere presence was enough to stop them. While I sat in my husbands arms and watched this new 1st family the woman and the little girl in me cried. As my daddy has only able to say " I just never woulda thought"

Bald spot 1st three months

2008-10-12T13:21:00.002-04:00

Not too much going on with my hair. It is growing and getting thick. I still only wear a headband and wash n go sometimes. Its almost too long to WnG. At least I dont like the look of it that way. It needs a few more inches to be a true afro. I get alot of shrinkage lately. I only wash once or twice a week now because of it. The good news is the bald spot is just about gone!! I still love and think i am ready to braid it. One of my BFs got her hair braided into almost micros and man she looked great. I am tempted. I love me with longer hair. I still dont feel particularly "pretty" like this. Winter is comming and im not sure how my hair will handle it but I am excited to be able to wear a hat!!

So howsit goin?

2008-08-25T23:31:00.003-04:00

It has been non-stop action in my neck of the woods. My son passed the summer session and is now a freshman at Northern Kentucky University. He also got his wisdom teeth cut out while he was home on break. I went to my 20th high school reunion. Had a family reunion for the first time in 10 years. I turned 38 and my husband turned 42.

Mama is spent let me tell ya!

The best thing though is my hair!!. It is growing like crazy. I officially have a TWA..teeny weeny afro! I am still concocting my own stuff and loving it. I did, however just make my first not so great batch and Im not so sure why it is off. I am now able to wear my headbands without looking crazy. I still do my wash and go's but not so much anymore.

The weird thing is the patches of scalp that are tender at various times like perm burn. Its almost as if my scalp knows it should burnt and is going thru creamy crack DTs. It is also now long enough that I am getting...shrinkage...kinkage...tightness..I dont know what ya call it....nappyness. Except the top. Its still straight.

I got my first shape up at the barber a few weeks ago too. That was funny. I never been a barber shop before but the guys didnt even bat an eye.

Happy birthday

2008-08-25T19:18:00.001-04:00

Make a Smilebox postcard

Week 3 and sporting a new do

2008-07-14T16:09:00.003-04:00

Make a Smilebox photobook

2 weeks and going

2008-07-11T14:53:00.006-04:00

I'm not sure if it is growing but there is definately some curl stuff going on in places. I dont know what I should do about these ends. My hair is still pretty straight in the top when it is wet.

and look...a new style...almost...LOL.....either way I love it. I think if I can put a barrett in there or something it might look cute. Potential at last!! I tried to put aloe vera and the curls whipped cream to hold down the front. It didnt really work but maybe if I try to tie it down tonight.

I loved saw this and loved it

2008-07-10T18:47:00.000-04:00

“I want to know my hair again, the way I knew it before I knew that my hair is me, before I lost the right to me, before I knew that the burden of beauty—or lack of it—for an entire race of people could be tied up with my hair and me.” - Paulette M. Caldwell

Quick update

2008-07-10T18:16:00.002-04:00

I'm sorry I've been MIA. My baby boy has left to go to summer session at NKU this week. I am trying to adjust. Then my brother showed up in town after being mia for 4 months needing a place to stay after leaving his no good wife. I am still keeping up with the cowashing and the spritz. I am feeling the need to cut my relaxed ends off. Its making me feel very Grace Jonesish. I cant tell if its grown or not but then its only been two weeks so probably not. I have not succumbed to the instaweave yet. My 20th high school reuninon is in August and I'm not sure I can go au naturale. I have only taken a few pictures but they look the same. I definately have some different textures going on. Im not sure how to handle that. I got a little elastic headband but my hair isnt long enough to actually hold back yet so I am still just wash and going.

Posting pictures is harder than I thought. I never have the camera ready when I need it or I dont think about it until after the fact.

How I felt this week

2008-07-01T21:57:00.003-04:00

I dont know. Alot of things. To go from having alot of hair to no hair....is a HUGE emotional adjustment that I don't think I appreciated before I did it. I know it will take time. While I have not been tempted to wear any of my instaweaves I do yearn for the money to have some braids put in while I wait....at least until my TWA grows enough for a headband. I know all this stuff is in my head an baggage passed down to me but its there none the less. I'm a girlie girl and even with big earrings and full makeup I don't feel it yet. It doesn't feel feminine.

I am proud of myself for doing it. I don't regret doing it. I don't think I look AWFUL but.....I don't feel pretty either. I feel like a bruising bulldog truth be told. Sigh...maybe next week.

What I learned this week

2008-07-01T18:42:00.006-04:00

I have survived the first week since doing the big chop. I made it without reverting back to my instaweave. I went to lunch with old coworkers and went face to face with my daddy and other family members. Y'all just don't know how hard that was. I haven't made peace with the way I look but I am trying to accept it.

I am so excited, I have learned so much. This whole natural hair thing is like uncovering ancient ruins or something. The best thing is the whole notion of co-washing or only washing my hair with conditioner. I've co-washed 3x this week mostly because I have putting so much stuff in my hair but I want to do it every couple of days or so irregardless. I cant believe the difference it makes. I have washed and conditioned with Keracare shampoo and Humecto conditioner and it left my hair brittle and dry. The co-washes leave my hair so soft and manageable its just crazy. Who knew???

The 2nd best thing is this conditioner/glycerin/water spritz. Man oh man. Now every cell in my brain is screaming at me that putting water on nappy hair is a one way ticket to hell but my hair was never this soft or moisturized when i had a relaxer. The best part is it's all natural and I MADE IT ALL BY MYSELF!!!!!

I got the Curls Whipped Cream and Souffle I have used the WC once and man did it curl my hair....relaxed ends and all. I think it made everything curl in tight. I'm not sure if it what they call shrinkage but my TWA shrunk. (For Lisa:TWA is short for teeny weenie afro). It also left my hair alittle bit harder than just the spritz but it is still soft. I will post some before and after pictures.

The bad thing I learned....if you can call it bad is Tea Tree oil is some STRONG stuff!!! I felt like Nutty Professor so I decided to add some Tea Tree and Jojoba oils to my glycerin spritz. The more the merrier right?? Yeah well....Tea Tree Oil is, for those like me who aren't exactly sure what Tea Tree oil can be used for:

Tea Tree Oil Healing Powers
Tea tree oil has been proven to be a powerful yet natural antiviral, antibacterial, antifungal medicine (essential oil).

It is being used as a very effective first aid remedy and against countless skin ailments, infections, cuts, scrapes, burns, insect bites and skin spots etc.

Tea tree oil is effective against nail fungus, ringworm, athlete's foot, dandruff, acne, blackheads and many types of infestations including lice, mites, scabies and mosquitoes etc... (For humans and animals alike)

Tea tree oil is not just soothing and disinfecting, it is capable of penetrating into the lower skin layers with its anti-inflammatory, disinfectant, analgesic (pain-killing) and cicatrizant (wound-healing) qualities.

It has a diaphoretic effect - It promotes sweating - which enhances the body's own natural preventative response when threatened by infection.

Tea tree oil exhibits expectorant and balsamic characteristics, which are especially beneficial in the case of throat or chest infections, having a generally soothing and clearing (mucus-expelling) effect on the entire respiratory tract. It is also effective against head colds.

All that means if you put more than just a few drops....your head will be on fire all night long!!!
LOLOL....I know...that's what my crazy azz gets. LOL

Ok so I've made a new spritz with conditioner, glycerin, jojoba, and vitamin E. I'm gonna use that this week. I'm also gonna use it on the girls hair and see how that works. I'm also gonna keep trying the Curls stuff to see how I like it as well.

BUT I visited the site Coup de coeur who says she loves Karen's Products and man that stuff looks great there are alot of fragrances including Sultry Sandalwood and Egyptian Musk!!! I'm gonna have to order their sampler just to see. I'm not usually a product junkie but I am afraid I am becoming one VERRRRY fast.